Diligent in Family Relationships

Bathroom Conversations

Not too long ago, frustrated with my children attempting to have conversations with me through the bathroom door, I decided to institute a new rule. Unless someone was dying or the house was on fire it could wait until I was out of the bathroom. It took some training, but most of the time the kids are pretty good. In fact, I was beginning to think we were past the bathroom interruptions. I should have known better.

Tonight I was in the bathroom when Maxx knocked on the door. (Yes, I can identify my children by the way they knock on the bathroom door.) Like normal, I responded with, “Just a minute,” my reminder that he needed to wait until I was done.

Instead of the usual, “Okay,” I heard, “Mom?” followed by an almost audible spinning of gears in his brain. Clearly, this little boy, who never seems to forget anything, had just realized he had broken a rule and was looking for a way out.


“Someone is dying.”

And there you have it, folks. I told you he never forgets anything. The one thing that he’s allowed to talk to me about through the bathroom door is exactly what comes out of his mouth. I ask him, “Who’s dying?”


I can tell by the almost giggly tone that Malia is definitely not dying, but there’s a pretty good chance that he’s feeling pretty proud of himself for managing to find a way out of trouble. “Oh, really. How is she dying?”

I think I’ve got him here, but really, I should know better by now. This boy is clever and thinks fast. Without missing a beat he replies, “Charles is sucking her blood.”

I smiled to myself while washing up, figuring at this point I may as well just go along with it. “Oh no! Did Charles turn into a vampire?”


“What are we going to do?”

“Rescue Malia!”

I opened the door to a giant grin, got a big hug, then sent the boy off to play. I suspect that stories of unusual ways for people to die may become a regular part of my bathroom routine.

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What I’ve learned from my 13 year old: Malia edition.

☆Be excited about new opportunities. It won’t hurt and it’s better than being scared.

☆ You’re happier when you forgive.
☆ Making new friends is easy if you just take time to get to know somebody.
☆ Always be yourself.

Some other interesting things about Malia.

☆ She is the child most likely to leave me a love note in an unexpected place.
☆ We sent her to a church summer camp this summer where she was the only girl from our stake to go. (Normally there are several girls from each stake.) Some of her leaders were concerned about her not having any friends up there, but she saw it as a great opportunity to meet new people and make new friends. It was a wonderful experience and she had a great time.
☆ She is developing into quite a young woman. Always willing to help, cheer someone up, and set a great example for others.

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What I’ve learned from my 6 year old: Maxx edition.

☆No matter how many bad guys you defeat today, there will always be more to defeat tomorrow.
☆No battle with the bad guys is complete without sound effects.
☆If you can be anything, be awesome!
☆Don’t be afraid to break the rules and create something new.
☆You won’t go wrong if you follow your father.

Some other fun things about Maxx:

☆ He loves to learn new things and his favorite homeschool activity right now is math. I suspect that is at least partially due to it being on the computer.
☆ I could fill a book with the one-liners that come out of this kid’s mouth. He has me laughing almost daily.
☆ When he gets a new LEGO set he likes help building it according to the instructions. It never lasts more than a few minutes in that state, though.
☆ Life would not be the same without his boundless energy. I am so grateful to have him be a part of my family.

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15 Years and Counting

903668_10152743075710037_298744498_oFifteen years ago today I married my favorite person in the world. There were people who were worried that we weren’t a good match, that we wouldn’t last, and that I was too young to understand what I was getting myself into. We ignored the naysayers and were sealed for time and all eternity in the Las Vegas temple of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. We’ve had our rough moments, but we have stuck by each other and we have grown up together.

We’ve come a long way in 15 years. We’re older and wiser. The way we started our life together was not ideal by some standards, but it was perfect for us. We are the same people we were then in some ways, and completely different in other ways. One thing is for sure, I am still in love with this man and can’t imagine my life without him.

As Mike and I talked about what we wanted to do to celebrate our anniversary we came up with a few ideas, but we both kept coming back to one thing. There are a lot of people who have left an imprint on our lives over the last 15 years. We would not be the people we are without each and every one of them. We want to celebrate not just the two of us sticking together for 15 years. We want to celebrate everyone and everything that has brought us to this point. We’ve got a rough idea of what we want to do. We just need to work out the details. So, keep your eyes peeled, because you just might see your name in lights soon.

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Getting my snuggle on.


This is one of my favorite parts of the day. I climb in to bed and curl up with my squishy. She nurses to sleep and then I lay in bed and just enjoy the snuggles. I don’t often get to stay there for very long, but I still love the time I get.

Why is this one of my favorite parts of the day?

Some people unwind with a drink. Others enjoy a bubble bath. For me it’s the quiet moments and intimate connection of a mother and child that bring me to my happy place. I need this moment of being nothing but mom as much as or more than I need the moments where I am wife, teacher, friend, creator, or any number of other rolls I take on. This is the thing I could never give up no matter what else in my life changes.

My kids are growing. I won’t get to have nursing babies forever. I’ll have to find other ways of connecting with them and recharging my spirit. I think long talks, sitting next to them on the couch, and giving them hugs will be what comes next. I’m not sure what I will do when they start leaving the house and I don’t get to see them every day.

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